Suzy Homemaker with flabby arms

I can’t even recall her saying hello to me…  The first thing I remember my mom saying to me is, “That dress makes you look like Suzy Homemaker!”.   I’m thinking what the fuck  does that even mean mom?!  What does Suzy homemaker even look like, I mean I don’t even know who she is?!

“How you make others feel about themselves, says a lot about you.”

If you knew my mother you would know that this is all too common behavior from her.  Out of my 32 years as her daughter I remember one, wait maybe two compliments from her.  One being, “vacuum because you do that better than your sister”…  The second time being about 6 years ago when she told me how proud she was of me..  Now I’m not saying she hasn’t complimented me more, it’s just that the criticisms from her play louder in my mind.

“Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn and most fools do.  But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”      -Dale Carnegie 

It’s hard to be confident around someone who makes you feel so insecure about yourself..  How is it that a mother still has the power to do that to her adult daughter?  It’s crazy to me that at almost 33 years old I’m still trying to prove myself to her.  Waiting for her to say, “I couldn’t have done it better myself Nicole!”  I know that I may never hear that come out of her mouth and most days I’m ok with that.  Then there are the days when I see her and she says, “your arms are getting bigger, like your triceps are flabby.”  You guys I work out 5-6 days a week and was super proud of my arms until the other day when she said that to me.

“Any jackass can kick a barn door down, but it takes a carpenter to build it.”     -Sam Rayburn

 As women, mothers or just decent human beings our words should be used with caution.  Remember the phrase, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!”? That’s a load of  bullshit!  Words can and do hurt!  I have allowed her words to get me down since Tuesday y’all!  Tomorrow is a new day and my mothers words aren’t going to be playing in my ears!  I refuse to let her get to me any longer (until of course I see her again)!  I’m a beautiful, smart, and talented woman, not Suzy the homemaker with flabby arms!

“Don’t be distracted by criticism.  Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.”        -Zig Ziglar

9 thoughts on “Suzy Homemaker with flabby arms

  1. Amen to that! I’m lucky to not have a mom that does this but I’ve had a mother in law that has and it’s soo infuriating! Keep your chin up and when the sun rises the next day, see it as a new day to have great experiences.

  2. Hi Nicole, sad how someone who is about to lift and encourage become the one who hurts. I agree with the girls, stay positive and continue doing as long as you think you are doing it right. Cheer up

  3. You are so right! Words from my childhood in my hair a weight still stay with me. Words hurt! Today I’m taking your advice, I’m beautiful and have great hair .

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